Working with Affirmations
These ideas about working with affirmations are a fusion of all the different resources I've encountered (including books by Louise Hay, Shakti Gawain etc.) plus my own experiential learnings. The way affirmations are applied in rebirthing has been of particular interest and influence. (I recommend exploring the ideas of Leonard Orr and Sondra Ray.)
Techniques
This is how I use affirmations myself. I come up with a desired outcome and put it into a positively structured sentence.
example: I am always well-rested.
Then I write out the phrase, noting the thoughts and especially the emotions and bodily reactions that come up in response to it.
example:
I am always well-rested. (anxiety, thought: 'but my child gets up every 3 hours!')
Whatever the emotion, I try to go into it or rest in it until it passes or transforms into something else. In this case, let's say the anxiety just fades away.
Then I write it out again, noting my response - usually it is something different but related or similar to the first. Maybe same feeling, slightly different thought - I do the same accepting and feeling the emotion until it is gone. I repeat this process until I see my thoughts becoming more neutral or at least less negative. If I get stuck, I will create an affirmation that addresses the block directly and then repeat the response/acceptance process again.
example:
My daughter is sleeping in longer and longer chunks. ('well, her sleep patterns are better than they were; I do see them improving as she gets older')
I find I usually need to do this affirmation exercise for 3 days in a row before I see evidence of change in my life (ie. things will magically rearrange themselves to make the statement true). Each time, I try to write out the affirmation until I see my responses getting increasingly positive and believing of the affirmative phrase. Once I see that happening at the beginning of the exercise (ie the first time I write out the affirmation) I know I have cleared that issue.
Then I might just post it someplace where I will see it occasionally.
Another way I use affirmations is to write out several affirmations that all generally express the same idea and reinforce each other. I adjust them as I go along, to fit my mood and goals. I try to make every phrase a bit different, or a bit more detailed.
example:
I choose to live an abundant life.
I experience abundance in every area.
I am linked to the unlimited abundance of the universe.
I am constantly increasing my conscious awareness of abundance.
When I am in need of general self-encouragement and uplift, I read a 10 page collection of affirmations I like, that I have put together from ones I've created or found. They cover all different aspects of life and are kind of organized by topic. I find just running through them when I am having trouble staying optimistic gives me a boost and leaves me thinking, yeah, that is the framework I want to come from.
Affirmations that I find especially helpful include ones that begin:
I am allowing...
I am giving myself permission...
I am choosing...
I am releasing my resistance to...
I am running the energy of...
I am holding the vibration of...
So an example might be 'I am holding the vibration of health.'
You can also modify the affirmation by putting things like 'in a quick and easy manner', 'in the best way possible' or 'in a way that serves the highest good of all concerned' in the phrase somehow. I don't usually do this, unless it's a more lengthy or detailed outline for manifesting something.
Affirmations Bring Up What Is Holding You Back
Affirmations are useful for making you conscious of what is holding you back so you can change it. They don't work so well if you just repeat them while ignoring the underlying dynamics of your mind. Then it's just a paste-over.
I find allowing the feelings to come up and resolve is what can make a shift happen really quickly. I've had this happen this year around money/success issues - I did the process once, in my head, and I really let myself go into the uncomfortable emotions that came up. Two days later I started a crazy month of doing more sessions than I could comfortably handle.
Often it's pain standing in the way of us receiving, and we resist feeling it. Then we don't get to have all the good that's on the other side of it.
I just want to address the issue of the 'negative' emotion coming up and the idea that you need to stay away from negative emotions in order to attract things that are in synch with positive emotions. The negative emotion (representing conflicting beliefs) shows itself in reaction to the positive phrase - it has always been there effecting your creation of reality. Emotions are only information about how your beliefs (conscious and unconscious) fit together. Where there is tension, there is contradiction.
Emotions Are Information
Learning to let your emotions just give you the information without you reacting to them, or acting before all the information is relayed, is an important skill and one you can develop through meditation. Practices that encourage you to witness your thoughts and emotions, that show you how to just rest within a feeling without resisting it or trying to change it, are huge pieces of any healing journey. When you have a practice like this, you realize no emotion is never-ending or permanent.
Not clearing those emotions - not letting them express themselves fully - means that you continue to be affected by them, whether you realize it or not. And they influence the vibration you send out, since emotions are magnetic.
So I'm not suggesting that you dwell in what comes up, or that you devote a lot of analysis to it - but just feel it and let it go. If you need a bridging thought to get past immovable thoughts or sub-blocks of emotion, create another positive affirmation.
One last thing I'm going to mention is that you can get around mental and emotional blocks by giving the affirmations to yourelf (or have them given to you) as hypnotic suggestion. This is another way of getting into a state outside of your normal thought patterns and ego so you don't invoke the resistance of past beliefs or emotions - an in-the-moment awareness similar to some types of meditation. I have used this a few times with friends. The trick is to pitch the affirmation at just the right level of consciousness, when the person is in just the right state.
It's An Art
There is an art to working with affirmations - choosing and structuring the statements so they resonate well to where you want to go and are appropriate to use where you are, listening to your body so you know where in the process you are and how close you are to results showing up in your reality. When it's done well, it's like a key turning smoothly in a lock. A simple, powerful and effective tool to use whenever you seek to make positive change.
"I now hold loving positive images of myself."
"I choose wholeness and peace."
"I allow the universe to support me in all I do."